The Crone – Part Two

May 16, 2012 in Life of a Crone

As I stated last week, this one is sort of a personal journey. When I discovered back in 2004 that I no longer was capable of bearing more children at first I was sad and very upset. I had hoped that I would have at least two children since I wanted my first born to have siblings (which I never really had growing up). I was in New Mexico at the time, and hating the heat, the being far from a major city or even town. I decided to start researching ideas for a business. I started taking entrepreneurial courses as well as going deeper into my pagan abilities. I found that I had a knack for baking and enjoyed practicing on those who were willing to be my ginnie pigs! Shortly after that I dug into crafting again. I loved working with my hands and even tried working with a router and lathe. Both I did very well with. Next my husband surprised me with a horse. It was a weanling colt. Those who boarded him for me thought my husband was crazy and told me (while trying not to laugh) to “see if you can put a harness on him!” Little did they realize, my father had given me lessons with horses while I was attending High School. Boy, were they surprised when I not only harnessed him, but got him to do what I asked of him.

By 2007 we found a place in the Midwest to move to. We packed up all but my horse, which stayed with a young man who really wanted to work with him. I was sad to leave him behind, but I knew at the time there was no place to put him nor could we haul him up without a horse trailer.

For the next 5 years I tried to convince at least one of the ranchers in the area where we moved, to allow me to help them on their ranches. I had wanted to have a ranch of my own since I started college, but money and lack of property kept me from going beyond a wish. Finally we were invited out to a ranch for dinner with a family who went to my mother’s church. I was thrilled! This rancher had a cow/calf operation and I was going to at least see it. I asked the man and his wife if there was any way I could help out. I practically begged, and he agreed (all be it reluctantly) to have me come and help. A week later I was driving out to his ranch.

My first experience with cattle was to pull the leg of the calf and keep him or her from moving while the man tagged them and castrated the males.

 

It wasn’t much, but I worked hard at keeping the calves still and calm while he worked with them. We took care of about a total of 9 that day. After we were done, he asked if I were interested in coming back. I didn’t hesitate to say yes.

The second time was a week later. His wife called and asked if I would come in early and I agreed. When I arrived, his teenage daughter decided she wanted to take the feet and I was informed we were also going to do branding. The women in town had told me all sorts of horror stories about branding among which included that the “stench” would make me sick… Funny thing about horror stories, they are just stories.

The first calf wiggled all over and he told me to move up or he was going to brand me. I told him my husband would be happy because it would prove I was his. We both laughed. By the third calf I asked if I could “throw” the calf. This consisted of grabbing the flap of skid next to the back leg and the front leg, swinging the calf up and away from you and once it is on its side, sitting on the head to prevent it from escaping. I had to do it twice the first time because I didn’t get down fast enough. On that day we handled 14 calves. Out of that group of 14, I “threw” 10.

I just got word that we have three more days, and he now “expects” me to be there to work. Not bad for a 53 year old Crone who had never worked cattle before…

Next a tribute to those who are our mothers and grandmothers.

The crone ~ Part One

May 2, 2012 in Life of a Crone

What is a crone? Well for many years the stereotypical image of a crone was a old wrinkled woman hunched over walking with a cane or staff. She was ancient, fragile and ugly, skin hanging off bones with a few rotting teeth. She was usually dressed in sagging garments, sometimes robes. She also had a crow on her shoulder and warts. And she was always single. This is how the media, movies and books depicted her. This is also how many still see her.

In ancient times, before monotheism took over, she was the wise one, the healer and grandmotherly woman. She was the midwife and did have a husband if he were alive. She was also the teacher and the one who cared for those around her. She would concoct herbs for many things, from additives for food to healing to love spells.

Now it seems that the world is swinging back to that form of Crone. The baby boomers (who now are finding themselves in their 50’s and 60’s), are finding out that this third part of life can be just as good, or even better than the first two parts. The crones are those who have passed child bearing years. We are the ones who are not tied down to the same responsibilities as families are. We are free to live our lives as we see fit.

I recall finding a bumper sticker which says it all: “C.R.O.N.E. (Creative Researcher Of New Experiences!).” I am beginning to find that Crones now-a-days actually emulate that definition. There are many of us returning to school, returning to crafts and actually doing things that we may never have wanted to when we were younger or never got the chance.

I know of one lady who graduated with a BA and she was 94. Another went skydiving with her husband. There are writers, artists, musicians, dancers and even women who are still acting way into their third     phase of life! We have the knowledge of life which we can now impart to others and the wisdom which comes from the practical life experience.

Over the next few weeks I will highlight some things I have done since becoming a crone. Our bodies may be getting stiff, but we still have great minds and ways of going beyond our potential. Enjoy!